He Said – Dependency

It’s true. I’ve always depended on other people and other things to cope. Why should I do things that someone else can do better, and I can just rely on that? The automatic thought being that SOMEONE ELSE CAN DO IT BETTER. Why try to cope with those feelings? That’s too stressful, and it won’t get me anywhere anyway. I could just drink, and at least make it SEEM better for a while . . .

She Said – Is This What They Mean By Co-Dependent?

So here’s what I’ve come to realize – in no small part due to his post yesterday – people who are dependent on things are dependent on things. I know, in and of itself that’s hardly a revelation, but bear with me.

He is so smart, creative, kind, generous, gorgeous, etc….. He doesn’t, in any way, fit the description of what I would have thought a co-dependent person was. You know, he’s not weak. And he’s certainly not manipulative, not intentionally anyway.

But I was reading his post from yesterday, and there it was…….